What if HE doesn’t want it?

So Show Up Naked with Food certainly speaks to the fact that all men WANT IT!!! But what if your man doesn’t fit the bill of the sex craved male? What if HE doesn’t want it and you do? I had one reader ask that exact question. While my blog is fairly generalized there are most definitely couples and people that this will not pertain to. See my warning at the bottom of this blog! So if he just isn’t interested in physical intimacy as much as you are try for starters asking yourself why… is it because your marriage is strained in other areas? Do you nag and disrespect him? Is he going through a stressful time financially or otherwise? How is his health? How is your emotional connection to him? Is your relationship set to the tone of romance? Are you making efforts to make him feel like a man and make yourself the woman he would want? Or perhaps is there nothing wrong with him, you, or your relationship but rather he just isn’t full of those hormones most guys are? Maybe consider how extreme his lack of desire is…. according to this site 1/3 of marriages suffer from mismatched sexual desire.

I liked what was written there, "About half the population needs to make a real effort to feel desire, Weiner Davis said. A reluctant spouse must make a “decision for desire,” she said. “If you wait for the feeling to sort of wash over you, when the dogs are out of the house, the phones are not ringing, the kids are in bed, you’re never going to have sex.” Couples need to put as much energy into their sex lives as their job and children, she said. Set the mood early in the day with simple flirtations around the house, a patting on the rear end, complimenting the spouse’s appearance. And of course, avoid bickering before bedtime. Couples with more deep-seated problems should seek counseling."

Either way, if you both are happy than don’t worry about it, don’t worry about keeping up with the Joneses in the bedroom because that is your mommy and daddy time and no one can dictate was is the right or wrong amount of sex to be having. My blog is just here to say that MOST GUYS want it more than you are having it! If this is not the case for you guys than no worries. But be real with yourself. Is he just saying he is ok with the lack of frequency of special time because he loves you, is unselfish, protecting your feelings, or is he really just not raring to go? Try soliciting him. Make the move. Try everyday and see how interested he is and then you will know for sure. My guess is a lot of guys will be thrilled at the new attention and you will be thrilled at the results in your marriage.