Doggone It...

I was told a funny little story yesterday that just had to make the "Show Up Naked with Food" Blog. My friend said that when her pal was getting married her 80 year old granny told her she needed to know 2 things.... that

#1. All men are dogs

#2. If you feed your dog everyday, he'll be the most loyal dog in the world

Now, the cynicism of calling men dogs is not at all the Show up Naked with Food philosophy, however this elderly women who has been happily married for nearly 60 years is tapping into the essence of taking care of your guy encourages loyalty. And just in case you missed it, when she said feed him everyday... she wasn't talking about food :)

So if you don't want to take my word for it, Doggone it... maybe consider it from someone older and wiser.

Put your love on Display

The way we treat our spouse in public influences our husband’s appreciation for our marriage and us! If we compliment them, and speak of their strengths when with their friends they feel like Kings.

When you put your love on display- people know you think highly of your man and hold your marriage to a higher standard. It is a wonderful perpetuating cycle because then you find yourself trying to live up to the notion that you have a lovely relationship. If we take great measures to protect our marriage’s “reputation” in public then it makes it easier to do so in private.

I have often seen couples lash out at one another with almost no filter that others are around and always think to myself… what must their relationship be like behind close doors if this is how they talk to one another when I am here??? Please place your love for him on a Billboard for all to see. Make it known and inturn you make yourself accountable. We don’t want to be hypocrites and so the “fake it to make it” logic is a way to start if you find yourself not feeling nice things about your man, let alone wanting to say them.

Here’s a little fun idea…. For 2 weeks make a point to compliment your man in a public situation where he can bask in your affirmation every single day. Let me know how it goes and test my theory- see if it boosts the love meter in your house.

Happy at Home

Sex is certainly not the end-all focus of marriage. It is also not the ultimate form of intimacy. It is however, INVALUABLE to the nurturing of a lasting marriage between two healthy and able bodied people.

“On my wedding day, a man in his fifties who was an old family friend walked up to me and bestowed this advice: “You have a good man there, Kris. My advice to you is to keep him happy at home and he won’t wonder!” At first, I’ll have to admit, I took offense at this. My thoughts were, “Yeah, well, he’d better keep me happy at home, too!” But I found out over time that the essence of what he was saying was right (for both men and women). People are sexual creatures; we need a lot of hugging, kissing, and touching. You can’t entirely cut your husband off sexually and not expect him to crave attention elsewhere; the same, of course, would be true for you if he cut you off entirely. The reality is, most couples who are happy, are having sex! So, it’s up to you to take charge and spice up your sexy side. It’ll keep you young, and you’ll both be happy at home!” – Author Kristine Carlson