Thoughts- what I think about my husband, my distractions with the kids, or other ideas matter. If I think of romantic things and physical intimacy it will help create the mood I need to be interested.
Tenderness- Women need emotional connection in order to feel open to being physical. Teasing- playfulness, flirting, and general teenage love behavior is helpful in a marriage. Couples should try to bring this back into their day to day routine.
Talk- For men and women it can be arousing to talk about it and express their feelings in the midst of love making.
Touch- this is both sexual and non-sexual- we don’t have as much affection in our lives once we are married with kids so we have to make an effort on this. So she thinks holding hands and loving touches in the day lean towards bedroom happiness.
Technique- We need to have a sexual education, read her book to learn specific mechanics, this can help your love life immensely. Women need to be open to learn their sexual wiring.
Transcendence- the ability to let go and enjoy is key. Women need to work on this in themselves.
Time- quickies are fine but shouldn’t me the norm as we won’t want intimacy if that is all we are getting.
Check out her videos here for more! My favorite quotes from Laura Brotherson from this interview:
“If you understand men, SEX is a really important way that they feel LOVED…"
"Women have not grasped or understood the importance of sex, not only for our husbands, but for ourselves…"
"It only takes one person to change a marriage!”